High Status Man

You have heard this so many times.

You probably have heard your wife or your girlfriend saying this to you, or worse…your lover saying this when talking about her former husband or boyfriend.

This statement sounds like these, or a version of them:

"Men do not talk about feelings; they do not express emotions."

"You know, he is a man, he can’t speak about emotions."

This one I heard recently while having a coffee break with a beloved girlfriend of mine:

"Men are such simple creatures.”

Is this true?

Well, I am not that sure…

After having read this article, you will – as a man – feel much better about the topic of “expressing feelings” and being a man.

I am about to take away some useless guilt and shame from you guys.

A broader look into what "expressing feeling and emotions" really means would reassure many of you, and that is why I am willing to share this with you.

So, let’s first have a look into what "expressing feelings" really is.

At the simplest level, our mind works so that the emotional part of the brain "feels emotions", and the logical part of it – where the centers for the verbal expression reside – puts the emotions into words.

Proper expression of feelings does not depend on how much we talk.

It depends mainly on how well we use words much more than how much we talk.

Words are a quite imperfect way of expressing emotions.

Richard Bandler was very well aware of this when he wrote that, “language is a quite poor instrument for describing inner experience.”

Now we have more than one way of demonstrating our own inability to express emotions.

One way is – due to the anti-male propaganda so present in the media in many western countries – much better known:

It is silence.

When we are not sure about our inner emotional experience, we may simply be silent.

This is the way preferred by men: silence, but….it really does not mean that there aren’t feelings there!

But..

There is another less known way of showing total inability to express feelings, and that is drama.

Drama is basically the same as being hysterical on the level of verbal expression of emotions.

Mainly due to intensive emotional "highs" and "lows", a person may use 5000 words in a totally chaotic way to describe what  could be expressed precisely with just 10 words well put into place!

This second alternative is the way women may demonstrate their inability to express feelings.

Now, the next time you are blamed of being a man who is not able to express his emotions, just say..

“Do you mean precise expression of emotions, or something else?” then hug her and go on about your business.

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How To Protect Yourself Against Envy

As a high status man you must learn to protect yourself from envious people. The most importaant meaning of envy is: they are dangerous.

It is easier for an envious person to jum off a bridge than to admit to envying. An envious person will poison you, lie to you, and spread rumors about you. They will try to destroy whatever comes to them if they know it came from you.

The first step to protecting yourself from envious people is to be able to pick out who they are.When you have status, intelligence, and charisma, you stand out like flies on a horse’s tail. This is the real meaning of envy!

An envious person can pick you out within five seconds. They can pick you out, hate you, and go on to plan your downfall, all within a few minutes of seeing you for the first time.

Once envy is discovered, there is not much that the person can do to you; however, that "not much" is like a nightmare.You must be able to walk into a room and pick upon envy as fast as possible. You must be able to catch envy from it’s very beginning.

If you only recognize envy and the meaning of envy when people begin to act on it, you are too late. Because if a person is already trying to bring you down and is turning others all around you towards hate, then he is already acting out his envy.

Rule number one about the meaning of envy: never help a person that envies you.When you do that, you show magnanimity and other good qualities that will only make the person’s envy stronger and enhance the attacks against you.

By definition, an envious person is unable to feel grateful for any good things received, and reacts to this with anger and a desire to destroy you.Robert Greene’s "The 48 Laws of Power" made it very clear: "Do not try to do favors for those who envy you; they will think you are condescending to them." He explained so well in this statement the true meaning of envy.

Don’t take what the envious person does or says seriously; the more you are reactive to it, the more the envious person will succeed to harm you.A badly envious person is not able to have a cooperative relationship with you based on fair exchange, and for this reason, simply don’t bother to find any answers to his or her questions.

You are better off focusing on something else productive, instead of trying to answer the envious person’s questions. If you do not need to share the same place with the envious person, then the best thing you can do is the same as with cancer: early detection and removal!

Simply quit all interaction with the envious person as soon as possible. This may seem a tough way of dealing with it, but believe me, it’s the only one which will save you from a lot of pain!

If you are obliged by the circumstances to stay in the same place with a person who is envious of you, then try to reduce the interaction with the person to the minimum necessary.

And make sure to not be involved in cooperation with the envious person in any activity that is important to you!By definition, if you are a high status man any person who is badly envious of you will have only one goal in mind, and that will be to destroy you at any cost.

You can prevent that by simply cutting the envious person out of your life. Never forget this when evaluating the meaning of envy in an envious person.No other cure is as effective.

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As a high status man something you should really know is why to avoid negative people and how.

You as a man have almost probably been educated to be "tough" which is good in situations where you need toughness to cope with difficulties.

On the other hand there are situations where being tough and persistent can really, really harm your interests.

Relationships with negative people are a good example of this: with them the best policy is not toughness, it is retreating.

Why you need to get rid of negative people?

It is because words affect your brain on the longer term.

It is very well known in psychology how rich verbal descriptions affect the brain.

A verbal description of a negative mind status affects through words your brain like a virus: it builds into your mind the same emotions and feelings connected with the negative thinking of the other person.

This is why you need to avoid contact with negative people.

How do you recognize negative people? You can do that by paying attention to their focus and the structure of their speech.

A negative person will have his focus on failure and pain. The content of his thinking will be filled with pain and failure. His/her actions will be directed to achieve pain and failure.

A good and easy way to detect a negative person is to follow how much and how often the negation is present in their speech.

“I do not understand this person”

“I cannot believe this could be true”

“I don´t like this”

Instead of:

“I think I understand the way this person thinks”

“I believe this is for surely true”

“I like very much this”

The focus of a negative person is on what it is not instead of having a focus on what it is or could be better.

When you detect this kind of negative thinking the best thing you can do is to withdraw from the communication with this person.

In a word: leave the person alone. It will not get any better.

Apply this to business relationships, friends and love relationships and you will achieve more energy and happiness in your life!

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If you are a successful man and plan to get married, beware, because you may well be “financially hunted.”

For some time I have been following the saga of Mel Gibson versus Oksana Griegorieva.

Something was simply not making sense to me. How could such a strong and successful man like Mel show such a massive lack of control?

This is a good example of why you should never, ever lose control of yourself.

Control over yourself is your best asset. Losing control in a situation with a woman like Mel did can seriously jeopardize your security and your assets.

If you are going to be in a relationship with a beautiful woman, you had better be used to beauty, or you may be in danger.

This morning I was browsing the Atlanta page of Examiner.com, and I read some very shocking news on Mel’s and Oksana’s ongoing story. (Examiner´s source: "Oksana Grigorieva Gets Money For Tapes in Settlement Agreement  with Mel Gibson," TMZ.com)

Of course we can’t know for sure if what the article says is true. But, if it is true, then it’s another example of a financially hunted man!

According to TMZ news, Oksana made an agreement that she would turn over tapes and recordings she made of Mel, for a profit. The agreement reportedly included a million-dollar payout, payable on receipt of all recordings, audio tapes, emails, text messages, videotapes, and photographs of Mel Gibson.

She was also going to get a million-dollar life insurance policy on her former lover, as well as rights in a Getty picture deal on the two, though the financial details of the deal are unknown. She profited $17,112 from the album Mel produced and helped promote. She also requested $10,000 per month for 18 years, starting January 1, 2011.

Oksana was also going to oversee the following benefits for their daughter: a sum of $50,000 a year for 20 years, college expenses amounting to $10,000 a year for 20 years, another $4,000 a month of child support in addition to what Oksana was already getting, and a life insurance payout to their daughter in the amount of $4.3 million when Mel died.

The L.A. County Sheriff’s office has been given a copy of a document from Mel’s legal team, confirming what Mel said all along; that Oksana was simply trying to get more money out of him.

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I did not closely follow the WikiLeaks story. Like other similar stories, I do not have a completely clear vision of WikiLeaks, and what is connected to it.

There are many obscure aspects of the story, and it is very difficult to know what really happened; what is true and what is not.

However, what happened to Julian Assange in Stockholm during his short adventure with two Swedish women is crystal clear to me.

The story is clear proof of how important it is for a high-status man to have the mastery of two important skills:

Never losing control of your frame: Even if you are tremendously in love, and are having the adventure of your life, never, never give up control over the frame of your interaction with anyone!

Screening women properly: You cannot be in a short or long-term relationship with a woman who is not sexually receptive in a joyful and positive way to you as a man.

Ignoring this fact will for certainly spell trouble for you.

You should be able to screen a woman for an inability to love men, and be sexually receptive, within the first twenty minutes of your conversation with her, and then rapidly direct your ship towards more pleasant seas.

There is absolutely no point staying in a place where your humanity as a man is not accepted.

When you want to relax from your mission or goal, you should actively screen for women who truly love men.

When he is on leave from his mission, the warrior wants to have a chance to rest. Men want rest so they can focus their maximum energy on their mission.

The ability to focus intensively on one mission or goal is one of the most important skills men have.

Another important rule for a modern, high-status male is to never, ever mix your mission, your desire, and your feelings with one another.

The mission always comes first. No hard feelings involved!

Our fathers and our grandfathers knew this principle very well. Why would you not want to be at their same level?

A man dedicated to his mission never loses control over his frame.

This is a rule.

Being able to screen women quickly is an extremely important skill.

When you screen for women who hate men, and cannot be sexually and emotionally receptive to you, you are harming yourself and also doing harm to other men.

When you choose to be with a woman who hates men, you are simultaneously excluding from your life other women who truly love men.

You should always be the selector.

You should never be selected.

You alone are responsible for your choices.

Being a real man is a lonely business.

Julian Assange´s story in Stockholm indicates that being selected is not only bad business for a man, but also a very dangerous business.

A little bit of paranoia a la Woody Allen can protect your health and your sanity; just a little bit, but not too much.

Seducing two women who are friends with each other behind their backs, and without controlling the frame of what is happening is fairly boyish behavior.

It indicates a lack of confidence on your behalf, as you are telling the woman that you are scared of her judgment.

If you do not believe in exclusivity, then be a real man and say that clearly and directly to your women.

We live in a society where, for the sake of “freedom” and “independence,” sexual and emotional exclusivity is presented by the media as something old-fashioned and ridiculous.

We live in a society of the unbearable lightness of being. If you believe in exclusive relationships you are right. If you do not believe in exclusive relationships you are also right.

Everyone is “right” in a modern and democratic, pluralistic society.

So long as you do not break the law, you are in the right.

So why do things behind peoples’ backs?

If you want to be exclusive, then wisely choose your woman.

If you do not want to be exclusive, be straight and direct about that, and again, choose your women wisely.

By doing this, you are establishing yourself as the selector from the beginning, and that is safe.

If Julian had clearly told the Swedish girl that he was not interested in exclusive relationships, then the encounter might have lasted only twenty minutes.

They would have left the bar and gone their own separate ways without harming each other in any way.

Julian was lonely and in need of support, and he was looking for that support in the wrong place.

He believed that he was among people who shared his ideals, and he let his guard down.

In this aspect, I empathize with Julian, and I think many other men do as well; regardless of their political positions on what he did as WikiLeaks founder.

He felt that he was dealing with people who supported him, and who shared similar ideals.

The problem is, you cannot give control of your frame to others when you are on a mission.

Ask for support, but never lose control over your frame.

There are many safer ways of visiting a new city without losing control over your frame, even if you do have the CIA chasing you.

He lost control over his frame and made a major screening mistake. The girl who accused him of rape is a Christian feminist.

If he would have first spent some time in a bar listening to her story, perhaps he would have rather spent his remaining time somewhere other than her apartment.

The basic idea behind the Swedish law is right. Not stopping when the other wants to, even in the middle of sexual contact, is an offence.

The fact is that the same law can also be used to accuse an innocent person of something that cannot be easily proved in a court of law, unless you were to always have a witness assist in your sexual encounters.

From the point of view of a man, the central issue is: be more careful about with whom you spend your time, especially when you are on an important mission.

The woman in question was a gender equity officer at the University. She has deeply “Christian” values towards men, and she has been publishing a blog post titled “7 Steps To Revenge”, in which she gives advice on how a woman who has been cheated on can get revenge on a man.

What I believe happened is this: he did not seduce the two girls, but was seduced by them, especially by the girl who had him as a guest in her apartment.

He began the seduction, but over time he was seduced. He lost control over his frame because he liked the girls too much.

If he would have spent some time looking a little more deely into her personality, he probably would have detected that this woman had only one mission: to make men feel guilty for being heterosexual males.

When you lose control over your frame, when you fail to properly screen your female mates, and you when you are not the selector, you are not seducing: you are being seduced and selected.

That is what we men should learn from what happened to Julian Assange in Stockholm. Never lose the frame of the selector, and never let anything get control over your frame and your mission!

A high-status man is dedicated to his mission before all else.

Incidentally, Stockholm is one of the most open-minded towns in the world. There are many swingers clubs, and the people are very democratic and open to diversity, judging from the number of clubs dedicated to sexual minorities.

When you are on your mission, you can, and should, focus on spending your time with women who truly love men.

With proper training, you can detect this trait simply by having a twenty-minute conversation with a woman in a bar, and before you accept a guest invitation from her.

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